You have probably already read how I deal with emotions so you will know I don’t take prisoners. When something comes up, I deal with it. The sooner the better.
Autie, know thyself
I say this all the time, but here’s some background info
So, let’s quickly have a look at anger. I am going to discuss the day-to-day angry feeling we may get when someone jumps the queue, or is rude, or insensitive 😡. This method works well for this specific kind of instance. A few minutes of music non-therapy will work wonders to keep those outbursts at bay! 🙅🏽
If you have some more deep-rooted anger issue, there will be a post coming up soon about that! 💜
This is how I perceive anger. Anger is a complex emotion. It is a container for other, often conflicting, but also very powerful feelings 🌋. For me it is recognisable by two distinct strands:
- Exuberant energy, and/or
- Painful sadness
You may experience anger differently. If you do simply use the same strategy but adapt it to your personal flavour! 🧠
So, I will show you how I deal with each separately. Remember, the idea is of letting go 🏖️.
By knowing myself, I know which approach to use on each occasion. Although I have been known to change approach on occasions if one is not successful 😉.
This is the kind of thing that can be done in a park, while working out, or locked in your room 🤔. Whichever suits you best. If you, on occasions, find me bobbing my head in and around the local parks with a big smile on my face you’ll know I’m probably just practicing a little music self-therapy 😁.
These are the steps to take:
- Choose whatever music is going to shake you to the core and fill you with the emotion you targeted ✅
- As you gradually release whatever feeling it is, select happier and less emotional tunes ⏫
- End with happy, intense, expressive tunes that will resonate in your head for a little after you switched off your “ghetto blaster” 🎚️
- Resume your daily life knowing that you Love Yourself ❤️🔥
It really is this simple. Let’s see how I would take each path according to my own taste and preference, just in case it can help you identify your own practice 🧗.
Exuberant energy
So, let’s assume someone has upset you. Maybe they stepped on your foot. Or maybe they just looked at you annoyed because you exist.
In that case, the first thing I do, is to clearly declare my feelings openly:
You’re a fucking piece of shit
yes, I have been know to be a little expressive.
It is 2:42 so, I tend to play it 3-4 times on a loop, until I’m bored, really.
Once I get sick of it, I start switching to more relaxed lyrics
Everybody rave now
now, now, now, now, now, now …
Much more positive than the last song, right?
so I keep it up …
Eventually I will keep smiling. and life can resume!
Painful sadness
We are dealing with the same situation as in the next column. However, sometimes, if I am home, safe, and alone, I might opt to let out the sadness generated by the anger.
So, start with something like …
And you’re standing on the edge face up
‘Cause you’re a natural
A beating heart of stone
You gotta be so cold
To make it in this world
Yeah, you’re a natural
Living your life cutthroat
You gotta be so cold
Yeah, you’re a natura
This definitely applies to whoever pissed me off …
Singing from heartache from the pain
Taking my message from the veins
Speaking my lesson from the brain
Seeing the beauty through thePain!
Oh yeah, I’m feeling it … and some of this too …
Quick fix of self-love with music self-therapy. Do you have some strategy to help you manage daily stresses? Share in the comments.
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