You have probably already read how I deal with emotions so you will know I don’t take prisoners. When something comes up, I deal with it. The sooner the better.
So, let’s quickly have a look at anger. I am going to discuss the day-to-day angry feeling we may get when someone jumps the queue, or is rude, or insensitive 😡. This method works well for this specific kind of instance. A few minutes of music non-therapy will work wonders to keep those outbursts at bay! 🙅🏽
If you have some more deep-rooted anger issue, there will be a post coming up soon about that! 💜
This is how I perceive anger. Anger is a complex emotion. It is a container for other, often conflicting, but also very powerful feelings 🌋. For me it is recognisable by two distinct strands:
- Exuberant energy, and/or
- Painful sadness
You may experience anger differently. If you do simply use the same strategy but adapt it to your personal flavour! 🧠
So, I will show you how I deal with each separately. Remember, the idea is of letting go 🏖️.
By knowing myself, I know which approach to use on each occasion. Although I have been known to change approach on occasions if one is not successful 😉.
This is the kind of thing that can be done in a park, while working out, or locked in your room 🤔. Whichever suits you best. If you, on occasions, find me bobbing my head in and around the local parks with a big smile on my face you’ll know I’m probably just practicing a little music self-therapy 😁.
These are the steps to take:
- Choose whatever music is going to shake you to the core and fill you with the emotion you targeted ✅
- As you gradually release whatever feeling it is, select happier and less emotional tunes ⏫
- End with happy, intense, expressive tunes that will resonate in your head for a little after you switched off your “ghetto blaster” 🎚️
- Resume your daily life knowing that you Love Yourself ❤️🔥
It really is this simple. Let’s see how I would take each path according to my own taste and preference, just in case it can help you identify your own practice 🧗.
So, let’s assume someone has upset you. Maybe they stepped on your foot. Or maybe they just looked at you annoyed because you exist.
In that case, the first thing I do, is to clearly declare my feelings openly:
You’re a fucking piece of shit
yes, I have been know to be a little expressive.
It is 2:42 so, I tend to play it 3-4 times on a loop, until I’m bored, really.
Once I get sick of it, I start switching to more relaxed lyrics
Everybody rave now
now, now, now, now, now, now …
Much more positive than the last song, right?
so I keep it up …
Eventually I will keep smiling. and life can resume!
We are dealing with the same situation as in the next column. However, sometimes, if I am home, safe, and alone, I might opt to let out the sadness generated by the anger.
So, start with something like …
And you’re standing on the edge face up
‘Cause you’re a natural
A beating heart of stone
You gotta be so cold
To make it in this world
Yeah, you’re a natural
Living your life cutthroat
You gotta be so cold
Yeah, you’re a natura
This definitely applies to whoever pissed me off …
Singing from heartache from the pain
Taking my message from the veins
Speaking my lesson from the brain
Seeing the beauty through the
Oh yeah, I’m feeling it … and some of this too …
Quick fix of self-love with music self-therapy. Do you have some strategy to help you manage daily stresses? Share in the comments, or send me some feedback.